The true test of a person’s spiritual life and character is not what he does in the extraordinary moments of life, but what he does during the ordinary times when there is nothing tremendous or exciting happening. A person’s worth is revealed in his attitude toward the ordinary things of life when he is not under the spotlight (see John 1:35-37 and John 3:30). It is painful work to get in step with God and to keep pace with Him— it means getting your second wind spiritually. In learning to walk with God, there is always the difficulty of getting into His stride, but once we have done so, the only characteristic that exhibits itself is the very life of God Himself. The individual person is merged into a personal oneness with God, and God’s stride and His power alone are exhibited.

It is difficult to get into stride with God, because as soon as we start walking with Him we find that His pace has surpassed us before we have even taken three steps. He has different ways of doing things, and we have to be trained and disciplined in His ways. It was said of Jesus— “He will not fail nor be discouraged…” (Isaiah 42:4) because He never worked from His own individual standpoint, but always worked from the standpoint of His Father. And we must learn to do the same. Spiritual truth is learned through the atmosphere that surrounds us, not through intellectual reasoning. It is God’s Spirit that changes the atmosphere of our way of looking at things, and then things begin to be possible which before were impossible. Getting into God’s stride means nothing less than oneness with Him. It takes a long time to get there, but keep at it. Don’t give up because the pain is intense right now— get on with it, and before long you will find that you have a new vision and a new purpose.

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How far are you willing to go for Christ even when the odds are against you? (1 Corinthians 4: 10 – 13). Responsibility means the state or fact of being accountable for one’s actions. It is also the ability to make moral and rational decisions. Asking to be used by God, be blessed, and to be a blessing to your generation is a serious business and for such a role to be given to you, you must show total dependence on God. Anything else won’t go. If you check the Scriptures you will see that only a few men make it to the top. These men and women defied all odds and by the confession of their mouths and also by putting their lives on the line as long as they are in accordance with God’s will, they overcame. To be used by God is not just a walk in the park. Many pray this prayer (to be used by God) including me but I must warn you that this is no child’s play. Handling spiritual matters can be the easiest thing if you choose to obey God’s instructions without being sentimental, yet the most dangerous thing ever (Hebrews 4:12). Until you see that being a true leader is to be the servant of all then will it be handed to you by God. The same with blessings, until you can see yourself being made as a sacrifice for others by what is given to you, such things you are asking will be put on hold waiting until you can be broken and be made as a sacrifice, then God “may” decide to bring it into manifestation. Don’t think that all leaders are leaders. Some are tyrants and dictators and should not be seen as leaders. Leaders are servants (Matthew 20:26). 
In our walk with God, we should ask God for the willingness to submit our will to His will no matter how impossible we may think the task is. Jesus told Philip in John 6:5, “Where can we buy bread to feed all these people?” God in Genesis 22:2 said to Abraham, “Take your son, your only son—yes, Isaac, whom you love so much—and go to the land of Moriah. Go & sacrifice him as a burnt offering on one of the mountains, which I will show you.” Both messages are similar and are pointing to salvation. When the disciple found a boy with his lunch and the boy was willing to give his lunch for the sake of others. Jesus broke the bread and the fish and gave to His disciples to share and after, 12 baskets were gathered. The same way Abraham was willing to give up his only son as a sacrifice to God. The Lord made provision and today we are called children of Abraham. Both sacrifices point to the work done on the Cross (Luke 23). When Jesus died and was buried, He rose back to life and today millions are born new in the Spirit (1 Peter 1: 2 – 4). 
We are made as sacrifices when we go through trials and diverse tribulations. Because of  Christ we look like fools, we are weak, ridiculed, sometimes we go hungry and thirsty and don’t have enough clothes to keep warm yet we bless those who curse us and patient with those who abuse us. We appeal gently when evil things are said about us. Yet we are treated like the world’s garbage, like everybody’s trash—right up to the present moment. But be sure to know that all your suffering and being foolish for Christ does not go unnoticed by the Lord for in due time He shall bless and reward us in full. 

May we remain faithful till the end and never lose our taste as we are the salt of the world and the light of the world. Today we are living epistles that men read and come to Jesus (2 Corinthians 3: 2 – 4).

Marriage is purely spiritual (Ephesians 5: 31 – 32). God alone can keep it running. Inviting God to be the head helps to make your marriage work well. He will guide both couples as they honour Him thereby making the marriage beautiful.

Love in marriage (Genesis 24:67) is like the shock absorber in a car. Love helps the marriage sail through the storms of life. When you love your spouse you are proud of the person irrespective of the social status and beauty or no beauty. Both couples protect each other when love is in the marriage.

To make a marriage work, effective communication (Colossians 4:6)between a couple is needed. This helps in bringing understanding between couples knowing what both like or don’t like. Communication also helps both spouses to learn to compromise without a fight and to disagree to agree in love.

Love Making (sex) (1 Corinthians 7:5) is the lubricant that keeps a marriage going. It spices the marriage. When it dies there will be a crack. This brings about the end of the marriage unless it’s rekindled.

Money is meant to bring comfort and ease to marriage (Hebrews 13:5). Be content with you have, agree, and build together and in all commit everything in God’s hands. Any woman or man who goes into marriage with the intention of saving money for himself or herself in the case of any eventuality has already broken the marriage before entering it.

Obedience and believing in the totality of God’s Word will keep any marriage from crashing or sinking. Try and avoid the third party in the marriage as much as possible and report all your challenges to God in prayer. When a spouse is angry or hurts, the best place to go is to channel all grievances to God. You’ll be amazed at how fast you will heal as long as you follow the direction of the Holy Spirit without a doubt. Remember in marriage prayer without obedience is like faith without works.

When couples disagree and refuse to come to terms to resolve their differences or better still come to a compromise, at this point is where couples bring the marriage to an end and go their separate ways by divorce. God never wants any of us to divorce.

An adage says that you cannot start learning how to use your left hand in old age when you are right-handed. Begin early in applying Kingdom principle in your marriage if not you may live to regret actions taken no matter how irrelevant the decision may look. But the only way both couples can make their marriage work is to go back to God who knows how to restore His people and is able to restore the marriage as long as both couples agree. Our Father in heaven surely knows how to turn our mess to miracles.